Boaz dating advice
It’s not a just a love story, it’s not just an allegory for God (embodied in Ruth and Boaz, of course, the way most study guides make it out to be).It’s about two women who live under a patriarchal oppression that requires them to have men to take care of them financially, but who band together through tragedy and heartache to find a way to survive in the system.
Naomi, Ruth’s mother-in-law, the woman whose heart flooded with bitterness when faced with the loss of her sons, tried to send Ruth away.
I also know that Boaz was much older than Ruth, and that Ruth was already a widow with a mother-in-law to take care of. Ruth gains both security and a son, which is like double security (#thepatriarchy), and something Mahlon never gave her, in ten years of marriage.
I do believe that Boaz and Ruth loved each other, but I also see that this is a marriage of convenience for everyone involved. Ruth is active in her life, despite the passive role that her society expects her to play.
Maybe I’m reading into it a little too much, a little too defensively, but all I see here is victim blaming.
If only you wait, the post warns, then you won’t end up in a bad relationship.