Dating while sober
Desloover also advises newly recovering women to attend women-only 12-Step meetings during that first year.
By working your program, you will discover who you are and what you can bring to your relationships, rather than what you can get from them.
This control is attractive at first, but soon becomes controlling or abusive” says Desloover.
“As women grow more confident and emotionally healthy in recovery, their self-esteem and confidence improves, and they begin to actually like themselves.
Most recovering addicts have a long history of dysfunctional and destructive relationships.
Early in recovery, relationships are one of the leading causes of relapse.
Only then will you be healthy and whole as a partner for someone else.” Be Patient. Even though it may feel like the process is agonizingly slow, there is no substitute for taking the time in the first year to focus exclusively on recovery.
“Whether the object of the addiction is drugs or an unhealthy attachment to another person, the individual is searching for something outside themselves to fill the emotional void within.” The “rush” of a new relationship can be emotionally damaging and can derail even the most valiant recovery effort.
In most cases, individuals who can’t refrain from having a relationship in the first year of recovery are missing an opportunity to address the core issues underlying their addictions.
In early recovery, people tend to choose the same type of partner they would’ve chosen when they were using drugs.
This person often is abusive or codependent, as is the recovering person early on.